Yeah, we are all the same.
But how are we the same?
We, are very, very, VERY sentimental.
Most boys, guys, or men thought we are one complicated being.
Well, I couldn't help saying they are quite right.
We are in fact quite simple-minded and very driven by emotions.
Why females often get mad and gotten their heart stoned or being cold-hearted?
The truth is women are all very soft-hearted.
It's sometimes the males that trained us to become that way.
How?
Easy.
We, FEMALES normally have what I call the 4 stages.
Unlike movies, our climax positioned in-front.
1st stage.
This stage usually complied the arguments and quarrels.
Women gets mad, and so do the guys.
We just got so fumed up that we just tend to forgot that so do the other party.
Someone just need to say the magic word.
But in my case, under normal situation, both sides just don't know when to give up.
And from there we just brought the whole momentum up to the next stage.
We hated each other.
2nd stage.
This stage is normally what I call the cold-war.
It seems as though both sides needed silence.
It is true that they may need time to relax and cool-down, or maybe not.
As for me, I hated this part.
I would just prefer to just settle the whole matter and get to the last stage fast even if it gets quite messy at times.
But not all people want to get messed-up with the solution.
It is quite heart-breaking having to know that the other party wouldn't really give up and just come and settle the whole matter.
So all the waiting and tears running down when you are crouched at the other side of the bed just bring you up to another whole new level.
3rd stage.
The numb.
Just like the name.
Feelings got numb towards the whole quarreling thing.
Some couples got through this stage while some breaks-up during this stage.
Me?
I got numb-er every single time I went through this stage.
You just make yourself do stuffs ignoring the other party that does just the same.
Though you were kinda hoping they will just come over and say sorry.
(doesn't always happen that way)
Seconds tick and hours passed.
You don't even hate anymore.
You started to get tired.
For me, it kind of breaks my heart having to see couple through the whole process.
Be it in movies or real life.
In this stage, both sides of couple knew where the problem is.
You don't hate, you just don't know what to feel.
(especially for those who went through this like thousands of times)
Specially true for those who are already in a long-term relationships like 3 years or more.
4th stage.
Note: This stage would only come if at least one side still treasures the whole relationship.
Guys tend to thought it often kind to be like make-a-deal settlement.
But hey no!
Once I asked a male friend of mine, asking why guys just tend to avoid this stage.
He said most guys are afraid that things got messy from here and all the quarreling would start all over again without settling the real matter.
That is why, most would just ignore the whole matter and just move on as though nothing has ever happened throughout the third stage.
Leaving the females stone-hearted and sort of given-up.
He then realized in his late 20's that what most females need during this stage is just a big warm hug from the other partner and say the magic words.
No, not Sorry.
I guess you would have know now.
Yes, it is.
I Love You.
This would just melt out the whole heart and any hard feelings compiled inside.
Though sometimes we may still resist a little, but if guys could be a little persistent in the hugging, trust me.
I could 100% assure you that this trick would work anytime.
Unless you are really planning on giving up the whole relationship.
If not, this trick would work for sure.
I'm not saying only the guys must do this.
It is also doable by the ladies.
Actually depending on who is the actual fault in the whole matter.
Effect is best when the real causer is the one doing the hugging saying the "I Love You", and most importantly, "Sorry".
But in the event that no one is actually feeling wrong and it is just the different perspective of seeing things that started the argument, well then it depends on who truly treasures the whole relationship.
It is not that who treasures who more.
It is just who are more willing to take the initiative to make the move.
As much as I yearned for all these, things would still stray from the ideal way we want it to be.
Well, couples.
One important thing to keep the relationship going is to stay passionate.
I understand that sometimes you got tired and hurt or numb.
Or you might even be used to all the habits of each other, but you still got to be passionate of each others' love.
Just treasure your time together and just try to accept the way each of you are.
It makes relationships easier.
Having the passion to love the other party is more than enough to overcome all these frictions and obstacles.
No matter how much you quarreled or argued, just keep your fire burning inside you.
Like an officer of mine said, "Candles burn because they have heart which are the strings. Do you have it to keep you burning?"
Hope you enjoyed my random post.
Go give the one you love a hug right now after reading.
The effects is what I truly want for you.
